Derby Day 2025

Dear Constant Reader,

Last year, at basically the last moment, B.A.B.E. sponsored a horse at the Paragon Carousel’s Derby Day fundraiser. This year we did it again.

Although I sent in our sponsorship early this year, they didn’t contact us until a couple of days before so we weren’t in the program again. Annoying. But I did have a lovely horse. I was told that her name is usually Belle and she’s the largest horse on the carousel.

Among the privileges of sponsorship is that you get to name the horse for the night and decorate it. I named her Miss Toni, after Toni Elling,  and bedecked her with a leopard fur stole with embroidered badges of the B.A.B.E. logo (made by Full Moon Creations) and coronet of roses.

Miss Toni

She won one of the races (sadly, that was the one race where someone else was riding her) and was draped with a wreath of winner’s roses. Folks remembered that my horse won last year too. I guess I can pick winners! 

Although I looked completely smashing, I don’t have any good photos of myself,  but here’s Miss Toni again with her roses.Derby Day 2025

EDIT: I completely forgot that Scratch had taken pictures, so you do get to see my lovely frock and hat after all.
Me and Miss Toni

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Published in: on 19 June 2025 at 7:31 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Cherry Tree Update

Dear Constant Reader,

You might recall my heartbreak last year when our cherry tree had to be taken down. However, we immediately replaced it with a new sour cherry tree.

Baby Tree, though small, is trying very hard. In the spring she was covered in blossoms
Cherry blossoms
which have turned into proto-cherries.
tiny cherries
I’m hoping for a handful of cherries, maybe enough for a dessert for two.

Some summer soon, fingers crossed, we will again have enough to share.

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Published in: on 5 June 2025 at 9:22 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Quiet = Busy

Dear Constant Reader,

I realize it’s been months since I posted anything more than a Friday Tip. There’s been a lot going on and it keeps me from my writing desk.

For the past six weeks, Scratch and I have been coaching students while they created their own burlesque acts and now they’re ready to hit the stage! We’ve got two student showcases this year, one in Salem on this coming Saturday and one in Somerville next Sunday. Come on out and cheer them on!

Besides the usual Introduction to Burlesque  and Beyond Basic Burlesque classes in May, we’ve got two very special workshops. I’m so excited that Kerri N’Fuego will be visiting Boston from Denver and teaching an introduction to acro chair. I love having guest instructors at B.A.B.E.! And I’ll be bringing Shimmy at the Speakeasy back to Salem to teach a new striptease routine. The last time was so much fun!

If that weren’t enough, we’re getting ready for three shows in June — one at a new-to-us venue, one at our beloved Deacon Giles, and one out on the Cape.

Hopefully I’ll have a few minutes soon to finish one of the many missives sitting open on my desk

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Published in: on 22 April 2025 at 6:42 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

It’s Friday again. Given my druthers, this is not a tip I would choose to write, or would even conceived of before this year. We’re getting into high season for festivals and…

Maybe don’t come to the US.

If you live outside the United States, this might not be the best time to visit.

There’ve been plenty of incidents in the past with burlesquers being refused entry, usually because they were suspected of coming here to work. The repercussions these days could be a heck of a lot more drastic than just being turned away at immigration. We’ll miss you, but stay safe.

Sorry for the downer, but it’s scary out there.

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Published in: on 21 March 2025 at 11:00 am  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip!

Check your elastic before you sew with it.

Old elastic loses its, well, elasticity. Check your stash and make sure nothing has gotten crunchy or stretched out. If so, you should toss it. Get some fresh elastic so your garment has a long, useful life after you’ve gone to all the work of sewing it.

If this happens with a costume piece or even regular clothing, see if you can replace the elastic without completely deconstructing the item. If it has a casing, that makes an easy fix.

I make my g-strings in such a way that the elastic is incredibly easy to remove and replace (like 5 minutes easy). You too can learn how from my Little Costuming Book or Patreon-exclusive tutorial.

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Published in: on 14 March 2025 at 4:23 pm  Leave a Comment  
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An Alternative to Amazon

Dear Constant Reader, 

Here at The Manor, we’re trying to live with less Amazon. I suspect some of you are as well. And thusly, I’ve been going through my book reviews and replacing links to Amazon with affiliate links to Bookshop.org. If you buy your books through those links, you’ll be supporting an independent bookstore and also this blog (as an affiliate I get a wee kickback).

You can tell which reviews have changed links by the ❤️ on the review page. I haven’t been able to replace all of them, since a number of the books are out of print.

I know it’s been a few months since my last book review. Any burlesque book in particular you’d like me to read and review?

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Published in: on 13 March 2025 at 5:32 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Albert Day

Dear Constant Reader,

Thirteen years ago today Albert A. Cat found us and transformed our lives. At the time, we though he was a lost cat, but he knew where his home was right away.

This is the third Albert Day without our handsome boy. I miss him every day.Albert

If you wish to honor our distinguished gentleman, be kind today. Tell the people and creatures you love that you do. Take a nap with a friend. Donate to a cat rescue or shelter or MSPCA Angell Hospital. Treat yourself to a traditional Albert cake (small almond cakes with white frosting, topped with shredded coconut, a little chocolate, and a pinch of sea salt).

But mostly, be kind.

M2

Published in: on 28 February 2025 at 11:00 am  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

January has been a rough month for many, so today’s tip is:

Do something nice for yourself. And then do something nice for someone else.

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Published in: on 24 January 2025 at 1:39 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

It’s Friday again! Time for a tip!

To preserve your manicure, wear gloves whenever working with your hands.

Work gloves, gardening gloves, dishwashing gloves, &c. 

I tend to knick my left thumbnail with the needle when I’m hand sewing. Since gloves aren’t practical in that case, I use a thimble. It’s taken a little while to get used to it, but worth it.

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Published in: on 15 November 2024 at 5:57 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Review: Honey Cup Cafe & Tearoom

Dear Constant Reader,

signOn Sunday I had the pleasure of being one of the first customers at the new Honey Cup Cafe and Tearoom in Manchester, NH. The Honey Cup is run by Mara, a B.A.B.E. student and burlesque performer a few years back. You know how much I love tea, so I’ve been eagerly following her updates about the project. It was so exciting to be invited to her soft opening!

Manchester is about an hour from Boston, but on a Sunday morning, the drive was easy and the autumn scenery was lovely, even on the highway. We entered through the cozy cafe and were seated in the much larger tearoom. The decor is very elegant: black walls, gold accents, and lots of floral motifs. We chose one of the low tables with a couch and armchairs, but there are standard height tables too.tea room interior

The menu has a variety of breakfast, lunch, and small bite items without being overwhelming. It being brunch time, Scratch ordered the potato waffle with milk oolong tea and pigs in blankets to share and Marek had a frittata with white velvet tea. Despite being tempted by some of my favorite dishes like clam chowder, overnight oats, and macaroni and cheese, I ordered the afternoon tea service with peach black tea. I just had to.

honey jarAll of the china was mismatched, but harmonious, floral patterns. The tea came in individual pots, with the tea already brewed, no leaves to deal with. Mine was delightful. I take my tea black, so I didn’t add any of the wee jar of honey (local, our server said), but Marek said it was delicious.

My order came on the traditional three-tiered server of savories, scones, and sweets, garnished with flowers, with dishes of butter, strawberry jam, and lemon curd. There was more than enough for me to share bits with my companions.

Afternoon Tea Service

First tier: Cucumber sandwich (a classic!), smoked salmon sandwich, chicken salad on a croissant, and a deviled egg. The sandwiches were on thicker bread than usual for tea sandwiches, but it was so good and didn’t overwhelm the fillings. I even liked the deviled egg, and you all know how I feel about eggs. My favorite was the chicken salad; the croissant was ridiculously flaky. I didn’t share that one at all.

There was a choice of three flavors of scone, one of which gluten-free. I picked the white chocolate-raspberry and they were SO GOOD. I have very high standards when it comes to scones and these met them. I particularly liked that the white chocolate was in chips rather than melted into the dough, in made for a more pronounced white chocolate flavor, with complimented the raspberries.

Lastly the sweets. We all agreed the madeleine was quite good (but not as good as mine) with a perfect bump on the back. The lemon macaron and chocolate petit four were each a perfect bite (and I did not share).

table settingOther positives, even though the tea room was full, it wasn’t particularly noisy; I had no trouble hearing my companions. The prices were perfectly reasonable. In fact, I think the afternoon tea was a pretty good deal. Although we didn’t indulge, there’s a small drinks menu with a couple of kinds of wine, cocktails, and bubbles.

The only thing I would knock points off for is the service, but I’m not going to, because this was their shakedown cruise. There was a little confusion about who was serving which table and a bit of unevenness as to when things arrived at the table. However, I’m confident that things will smooth out. That’s the whole point of a soft opening.

I appreciated the notes on the back of the tea menu defining the kinds of teas, like cream tea (with clotted cream) and royal tea (with sparkling wine), for those who might not be as well versed in such things. I was especially happy to see the explanation of the difference between afternoon tea and high tea — it makes me crazy when they are confused.

They’re open to the public now and I encourage you to go! I’m so happy for Mara for making this lovely oasis a reality and wish her all the best!

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Published in: on 7 November 2024 at 5:21 pm  Leave a Comment  
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