A Mystery

Dear Constant Reader,

I wasn’t expecting a package. I certainly wasn’t expecting this one.
Spooky Mail
Turning the box over added a little information, but not much. And the return address was an Etsy seller.
Blind date

Intrigued, I opened it. There was a small case inside, crammed with stuff. A pair of cozy-looking socks, a couple of Biscoff cookies, a packet of tea and one of cocoa, a hightlighter, a hair clip, a spiderweb-shaped coaster — things for a cozy reading time. And this book.
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I almost regretted unwrapping it — look at those careful folds! If you can’t tell from the photo, those are stickers and little post-its and book marks and the like.

Now, the big question. Who sent it? Of course I texted my mom first, but I knew it wasn’t her, as she had just sent me a gift of seasonal tea towels. Indeed, she confirmed she had not sent it “but I wish I had”. My sister was next, and she confirmed it was not her and wished me happy hunting. Family out of the way, I started making a suspect list, but only had time to contact A. (“no, but I wish I had”) before we had to leave for our Halloween show in Salem.

All night it was in the back of my mind wondering who sent the gift. To be honest, I was enjoying the mystery of it, and it didn’t really matter who sent it, I was feeling loved.

The next day, all was revealed when Dr. B. confessed. She was on my suspect list, and it should have been obvious to me. This is not the first time one of us has sent the other a mystery gift.

I’m very much looking forward to a lazy day in the future with a cup of cocoa, warm socks, and my blind date horror novel.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my 18 Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 17 November 2025 at 5:15 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Recommendation: Silk Electric

Dear Constant Reader,

If you want to add some flowing fabric to your acts, you need to check out Silk Electric.

I first met Dulce when we performed at Burlesque Bingo in Longbeach, CA in 2019. Since then she’s been producing gorgeous dyed silk items for flow arts, bellydance, and burlesque. If you want veils, silk fans, flags, streamers, or similar, this is the place. She does periodic Silk Drops with her new items, so set your reminders because they go fast.

Scratch bought me a weighted veil from her at BHoF a few years ago and I absolutely love it. A weighted veil, you may ask… It’s a big hunk of silk fabric with a weight in one corner, making it possible to do some moves that regular, floaty silk can’t. I was introduced to them by Gaea Lady in New Orleans in 2018 and I was hooked.

You can see it in use here in this snippet of my act “Satanic Panic”:

(Filmed by Ava Fox at last year’s Halloween show at Deacon Giles)

I recently bought a set of fishbone fans and getting them was a saga, but I’ll just say Dulce went above and beyond with the customer service. While I’ll never give up my feather fans, I’m having a lot of fun with this style. If you want to see those fans in action (or are wondering what the heck a fishbone fan is) come to The Spookeasy Lab on October 18th.

If you’re tempted by the silk, but don’t know what to do with it, Dulce’s got you — she has a series of video tutorials. As a instructor myself, I’m impressed with her clear and friendly teaching style. And if you want something special, she does do custom work.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my 18 Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 15 October 2025 at 4:21 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Artist Spotlight: Sinister Sarah

Dear Constant Reader,

The most recent artwork that I have been privileged to receive came from Sinister Sarah herself, the mad artisan behind The Slightly Sinister Academy of Crafts. When she released her video on stained glass, she also held a contest where the two people who solved a murder mystery (most accurate answer and most entertaining, as I recall) would win hand-made stained glass suncatchers of her own original designs. 

As you’ve probably guessed…

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I remember there was a spider design and a lantern one. I knew they would be gorgeous and didn’t care which one I received. It took some time for Sarah to make the stained glass pieces and a lot happened in both our lives in the interim, as well as that of the other winner.

I was unprepared when the suncatcher finally arrived.

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She even captured his signature crossed-paws pose. I’m so overwhelmed that she did this. I know how difficult and time-consuming it is to work in stained glass and yet she chose to make this portrait instead of one of her planned designs.

Unfortunately, the other winner had also lost her beloved cat, Morpheus, not long after Albert died, and she also received a memorial portrait. 

I don’t have the words for how touched I am. I need to find a special place, safe from the predations of certain cats, where I can see the sun glow through this marvelous gift.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my 19 Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 22 December 2023 at 4:35 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Artist Spotlight: Crocheted Atrocities

Dear Constant Reader,

Especially if you follow me on IG, you might have seen me mention The Slightly Sinister Academy of Crafts, a really fun community of people who love crafts with a spooky touch. Last fall we had a Trick or Treat gift swap for Halloween, where names were drawn out of hat and Sinister Sarah spun the Wheel of Fate to determine if you were giving/getting a trick or a treat. I was paired with Tammi aka Crocheted Atrocities. I was giving her a treat, but receiving a trick.

I was rather pleased with my treat offerings and sent them off.  I was wondering what the heck the trick could be. Soon the answer came in the form of a large box, with not one, but two hand-made gifts (plus a toy for Bartholomew that he loved).

First was a crocheted cat with a hidden secret. A trick if you will.

I take him when I travel, so I have both Bartholomew and Albert with me.

But the main thing was this:
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Tammi made that lamp herself! The base is a black cat wine bottle and there are crocheted pasties and fringe. The shade is covered with leopard print  (of course) and sparkly black fabric. It couldn’t be more perfect for me.

But where’s the trick? Just flip the switch…
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It’s been living in my closet while I waited for Bartholomew to grow up a little and become less destructive. Soon I should be able to read by its sexy glow.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my 19 Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 21 December 2023 at 3:43 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Artist Spotlight: A. Fox

Dear Constant Reader,

I have a friend with whom I correspond. Like real, in-the-mail, pen & paper letters. We’ve been doing this for a very, very long time. We attended the same university (she undergrad, me grad) and escaped graduated the same year. Her mom gave me a pen (sitting right here on my desk) as a graduation gift and we just started sending letters.

Last summer when I was despondent after Albert’s death. I got a handmade stamp-art card in the mail from her, which contained within a card secured with a bit of washi tape. It was about the size of a playing card, with more stamp art. Nothing else. And a number 1 on the back of the envelope.

I was intrigued and delighted. I love a good mystery. I eagerly awaited the mail each day and cards began showing up…2, 3, 4…

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IMG_6823Each one had unique art and one of those intriguing cards taped inside. How many cards would there be all together?

A couple of envelopes came out of order, so I waited (impatiently) for the previous cards so I could open them in order (I’m like that). One day a big envelope came with the number 9 card and one of those card-protector sheets, with nine pockets, like you’d use to store collectible cards. It was one of the ones that came out of order, so I waited before opening the last envelope, wondering the whole time.

When I opened the last greeting card, I learned this was a pocket letter, something that was completely new to me. The art cards could be assembled into a larger picture. It was one last bit of puzzle, figuring out what order they went in (although I had been given the clue that the last card received went in the center).

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I love the butterfly ladies. One of the ancient Greek words for butterfly, Ψυχή, also means “soul” or “spirit”. Exactly the uplifting image I needed. The framed piece now hangs on the gallery wall in the bedroom.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my 19 Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 20 December 2023 at 5:46 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Artist Spotlight: Lady Kathryn

Dear Constant Reader,

My first spotlight is on an artist I’ve never met.

There’s a community on Discord that began as an unofficial place for Patrons of Christine McConnell to gather and discuss her projects, but it’s evolved beyond that into a community of people who love the spooky side of life and creative pursuits. One of the things that came out of it was craft swaps. You agree to make a gift for someone and someone else, unknown to you, makes one for you. You fill out a little questionnaire so the gift-giver has some idea of your likes and dislikes.  I usually join for Halloween, but last year I signed up for the spring swap. It happened to coincide with Albert’s final illness, but preparing my gifts was actually a good distraction.

Right after Albert died, Scratch went to New York for a long-postponed visit with his family (and my deepest gratitude to the friend who went with him so he wasn’t alone on the long drive). So that I wouldn’t be all alone in the house with my grief, Betty invited me to take refuge in her boudoir while he was traveling.

One of those mornings, as I was heading out, there was a parcel on the porch and I grabbed it without even wondering what it could be. Once at Betty’s I opened it.

Tray from Lady Kathryn

At first the sender was a mystery — apparently a note failed to make it into the parcel — but she was soon identified. Lady Kathryn had taken all the little tidbits I had shared about myself (sailed on a tall ship, swam like a mermaid, had a white cat, &c.) to make this tray. When I thanked her, she said she especially wanted to make sure that Albert was represented. She would have had no way of knowing that when she made this that it would be a memorial.

I was so grateful that a virtual stranger (we didn’t interact all that much on-line) had taken the time and care to make something both useful and beautiful which was so personal to me. It makes me smile every time I use it.

Tea tray in use

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Published in: on 19 December 2023 at 5:35 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Bravery and Civility

Dear Constant Reader,

A couple of weeks ago Maggie McMuffin was traveling back to Seattle from New York with a lay-over in Boston. It was at our own Logan Airport that a JetBlue employee told her that she couldn’t board the plane unless she changed her clothes. Apparently the pilot thought that Maggie’s shorts (by J. Von Stratton) were “lewd, obscene, or patently offensive”, which is what JetBlue’s Contract of Carriage forbids (and all it has to say on how passengers dress). This was despite the fact that a JetBlue pilot had just let her fly in the same outfit from New York to Boston without problem.

But I’m not actually here to debate whether what she was wearing was appropriate or not. You can judge for yourself. But I don’t want to hear your opinion. This isn’t about that.

It’s about Maggie’s bravery. Her story went viral. It was reported in several countries, she was interviewed by local news stations, it was hot on social media, it was even trending on Facebook’s news feed.

That means a lot of people saw her story and felt the need to express their opinions. And those opinions were not always kind or polite. It’s so easy to be cruel to someone you only see on the internet. After all, it’s not like they’re a real person with feelings and complexity. They’re just some pixels to judge and mock and feel superior to.

Thousands of people said horrible things about Maggie without knowing her or caring that she’s kind and funny or that she can do impressively big hair or that she likes clowning or that she recently had a major upheaval in her life. They just saw a target.

By taking her story public and pushing it to go viral, she knew this would happen. And she did it anyway. That’s brave. She shouldn’t have to endure insulting commentary on her body, her intelligence, her morals, &c. to tell her story about feeling discriminated against because of how she was dressed. But that’s the reality today. It’s sad.

So, please, Gentle Readers, when you see a story on the internet and you feel compelled to comment, stop for a moment and think before you write. Does the entire world really need to know your opinion? Can you express it clearly and without attacking anyone? Do you need to use insults or foul language to make your point?

Just a little civility, my friends, would make the world a much better place.

And, Maggie, thanks for fighting against arbitrary discrimination. You are a hero in shorts.

M2

Published in: on 2 June 2016 at 3:54 pm  Leave a Comment  
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So Proud

Dear Constant Reader,

Betty Blaize just* had a major milestone in her performing career. I’ve mentioned from time to time that she studies bharatanatyam, an Indian classical dance. I’m not sure I explained just how serious she is about it.

After 15 years of study, Betty had her arangetram. It’s often translated as “professional debut”, but literally means “getting onto the stage” in Tamil. Now, Betty has been performing Indian dance and martial arts for a number of years, so this was more like (in my incomplete understanding) public recognition of her skill and approval from her guru (teacher) that she is now a part of the lineage of this particular style of bharatanatyam. In any case, an arangetram is a solo recital that showcases the dancer’s versatility and skill.

Betty worked so hard on this. She was rehearsing for the performance at least a year, maybe longer, with her two gurus. This was complicated by the fact that they had relocated to Southern California and all this was being done via Skype and the occasional in-person visit. About a month before the arangetram, Betty went out to the West Coast for three weeks for intensive coaching.

And she wasn’t just the star of the show, she was also the producer — arranging for the venue, the lighting, the sound, the catering, photo & video, publicity, programs, and commissioning beautiful recordings of her songs from musicians in India.

On the big day, I was one of a handful of people invited to a puja, a ceremony in which (I think) Betty was blessed and formally joined the linage of the dance school. I was the only woman there not wearing a sari… I got a little emotional when Betty’s ankle bells were blessed. I remembered her telling me about the puja so many years ago when she received her first pair of ankle bells. Once she was wearing the blessed bells, she danced for those attending — her teachers, fellow students, guests, and the gods.

In the evening was the arangetram proper. The BeauTease were all there early to help with set up and be ushers. Betty loaned them saris and had given a sari draping lesson previously, but it’s a tricky garment! Fortunately, Betty’s friend M., in from Colorado for the event, is an expert sari draper and got them squared away in no time. They looked so adorable! Yes, I’m wearing a thoroughly Western LBD, but I was in charge of the refreshments and wanted to be unencumbered in case I had to hustle. I am, however, wearing jewelry that Betty brought me from India.

The performance itself was a two-hour solo recital for a packed house. The program consisted of eight dance pieces of different types — some are more “dancey” with elaborate footwork and rhythms (from the stomping of the dancer’s feet and the ankle bells) and some are more emotive and tell a story. Betty included one of my favorites, the story of Krishna’s mother looking for her missing son and bragging on him. I’ve seen her perform this for many years, becoming more and more adept each time. The showpiece of the recital was a twenty-four minute long pada varna, called Daa nike, which tells the story of a woman chatting up a handsome hero by extolling the virtues of her best friend, a heroine.

Bharatanatyam is an incredibly precise art, with no detail considered too small on which to lavish attention. It’s true of the choreography (which include movements of the eyes and eyebrows) as well as the appearance of the dancer. Betty’s fingers, toes, and the palms of her hand were stained red to highlight her gestures and steps. Her gurus (and guru’s mother) made sure her makeup and hair were just so. And she wore two different, gorgeous costumes she commissioned the last time she was in India.

Blurry performance photos are by someone in the audience illicitly taking snaps. I hope you can get an idea from them, since the professional photos aren’t up yet.

This event was a huge accomplishment — two hours of solid dancing (with only a fifteen minute break to change costumes) in an art form that is every bit as disciplined and codified as ballet, with an expectation of perfection (Betty was getting good wishes for a “flawless debut”) and a spiritual component. Plus all that producing stuff. She carried it off beautifully and with grace.

I’m so proud of her devotion and her skill. It was the perfect showcase of her talent.

M2 *And by “just” I mean early April. I’m way behind on my posting, thanks to my friend bronchitis who monopolized my April.

Published in: on 1 June 2016 at 12:13 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Fabulous People I Know: Red

Dear Constant Reader,

Occasionally I want to recognize people who I think are fabulous. Today I’d like to present Red to you. She’s known as Redheadedgirl to her fans on Smart Bitches, Trashy Books and her followers on Twitter, but if you attended The Wrathskellar, you’ll recognize her as The Box Office Gal.

I’ve know Red for several years, ever since she moved to Boston from Minnesota and sought me out as a mentor. Not in burlesque, but for my knowledge of historic cooking and Roman archaeology (I bet you didn’t know that about me). As a bonus, she got Scratch too. He affectionately refers to her as the teenage daughter he never wanted.

Red got a Master’s degree in criminal justice and spent a long time saying she wasn’t going to be a lawyer because that required going to law school, which everyone knows is a horrible ordeal. Eventually, she caved in and went to law school. It was a grueling 3 years. This spring she graduated and then took the bar exam. To everyone’s delight (and no one’s surprise), she passed it the first time.

Yesterday morning, Scratch and I were honored to attend the ceremony in which she was sworn in as an attorney. Court was opened in Faneuil Hall, presided over by a Justice, and a motion was presented to him to admit the candidates to the bar. It was all very formal. The Clerk even wore morning dress. The shiny new lawyers swore the oldest attorney’s oath in the country and then signed the Roll of Attorneys with their official fake Montblanc pens.

Then I accompanied Red to get her license. When they called her on to the stage as “Attorney [last name]”, she may have muttered sometime profane in shock. One of the speakers during the ceremony had pointed out that they were going to be lawyers for the rest of their lives, but that new title made it real.

Red with lawyer licenseAnd here she is with her spanking new license to practice law. I’m so proud of her for pursuing this goal so determinedly and I know she’ll use her new powers only for good (or at least not to cause too much chaos).

Published in: on 28 November 2012 at 12:35 pm  Leave a Comment  
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