Review: Honey

Dear Constant Reader,

Here’s another one of these books I was sure I had reviewed long ago…

Honey: The Life and Loves of Lenny’s Shady Lady by Honey Bruce with Dana Benenson, 1976.

I first read this book as a teenager* when I was obsessed with Lenny Bruce and didn’t know the first thing about burlesque. Reading it again now from the perspective of a performer and historian brought new details into focus.

As with so many of our Legends, Honey Bruce (née Harriet Jolliff) began her performance career as a teenager escaping a miserable home life. Her stepfather was strict and physically abusive and on her third attempt to run away, she, a girlfriend, and two Army draftees made it from Detroit to Florida. Her first taste of show business came when she was hired as a topless showgirl at the Tropics Club at in Miami. Billed as The Blue Bird, she lasted all of one night, hustling drinks and being groped by patrons. Unfortunately, their transport to Florida had been a series of stolen cars and, at 17, she was sent to prison for a year. She reunited with her mother and sister who were working during the summer in a traveling carnival, where she was introduced to the girl show.

After a miserable, but brief, marriage, she ran back to the carnival and performed in the girl show as The Flame, named for her long red hair. Jean Hanley, the former lion tamer who owned the show, taught her hula and “shim-sham-shimmy”. She returned to Miami and, as Hot Honey Harlow, became a featured dancer in nightclubs. There’s a section about how she learned to command the stage from Bobbi Blake, a flamboyant female impersonator.

Then there was that fateful visit to an all-night diner in Baltimore where she met the not-yet-legendary comedian Lenny Bruce, fell madly in love, and became his shiksa** goddess. And this is where the narrative changes — Lenny dominates the story.

Early on in their relationship, Lenny wanted Honey to stop stripping. He brought her into his act, doing comedy routines, dancing, and singing. They sold her yellow convertible (with the cartoon of her in g-string and pasties on the side) and bought a black Chevy. However, after their move to California when gigs were hard to come by, she went back to stripping, landing at the Colony Club. Lenny was also working in burlesque, developing his routines as the MC at Strip City. [Warning: a bunch of the jokes she quotes are hideously racist]

After the birth of their daughter Kitty, both Lenny and Honey start using heroin heavily. From here on, the book is a cautionary tale. Honey goes to prison for two year and loses custody of her daughter. Lenny divorces her. Although they get back together (and break up and get back together and break up..), their love for each other is equalled by their love of getting high. Lenny periodically kicks his heroin use, but Honey is hooked completely. She’s harassed by the police, who want to bust her for possession.  Lenny sends her and Kitty to Europe, hoping to keep her away from the police, but that trip turns into a never-ending quest for a fix. She is robbed, assaulted, questioned by local police, and kicked out of hotel after hotel — and the entire country of Italy. Later she’ll be forced to leave Canada as an “undesirable.” She is estranged from her daughter. She finally gets clean in 1971, after being an addict for 16 years. The book ends with her tentative reconnection with Kitty.

It’s not all grim choices and bad decisions — she’s a fairly creative person. When she and Lenny are first married, she teaches herself to sew (with a rented machine!) and decorates their house. Stuck in Honolulu on a pending federal marijuana charge, she begins sewing custom bikinis out of her motel room and creates “Harriet’s of Hawaii”. The business grows until she’s designing all sorts of clothes and so busy she’s employing two seamstresses — she had no time for drugs, she says. One of her customers was singer Herb Jeffries, who would later marry Tempest Storm. While in prison, she uses WWII surplus parachutes to make lingerie for the other inmates. Later, back in Los Angeles, she opens “Hattie’s in the Hills”, a custom clothing salon in Hollywood.

Not surprising for a book published by Playboy Press there’s a lot of sex and a lot of physical descriptions of people (especially herself and Lenny) intended to be titillating. Although I know that it wasn’t the focus of the book, I wish there had been more details about her burlesquing. She mentions performing “squat-bumps” and that she had costumes with hoopskirts, but not much else and almost nothing about the other performers with whom she shared a stage.

It’s interesting to compare her story with her portrayal in the movie Lenny, which I shall review next.

M2

*Shout out to the Westport Public Library for having it on their shelves and never even commenting on the weird stuff I checked out.
** Yiddish for a non-Jewish woman. Implies the kind of girl you wouldn’t want to bring home to Mother.

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Published in: on 29 April 2026 at 9:07 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip!

Be prepared for holidays, movie releases, and other occasions that want themed shows. Check your calendar now and plan ahead so opportunities don’t catch you unprepared.

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Published in: on 24 April 2026 at 11:56 am  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday!

I’m trying something new. Inspired by some terrific burlesque instructors, like Bebe Bardeaux and Jo Weldon, I’ve decided to offer a monthly on-line workshop series. These are going to be mostly lecture classes, on topics like burlesque history and costuming. At least at first, because that’s what I’ve got ready to go. I’m working on some new classes and I’m open to suggestions. Our other faculty members may join the line-up too.

We’re going to kick it off with Getting Tight: A Guide to Corsetry on Tuesday, May 19. And as a little teaser, here’s your tip:

Remember to loosen the laces before you unfasten your corset.

Whether your corset has a traditional busk, a zipper, clasps, or something else, it’s going to be a lot easier and smoother when you release some of the pressure on that closure. Otherwise, it could be a struggle to unfasten, which is never fun, doesn’t look good, and there’s the possibility you’ll damage your corset.

For more corset information, join me on Zoom on May 19th!

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Published in: on 17 April 2026 at 11:00 am  Leave a Comment  
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From the Distant Past

Dear Constant Reader,

I was cleaning up my sewing room (a Sisyphean task) and found these undies, which were made for a big group number in 2006. Martini Time undies

This was the finale for our “Centennial” show, celebrating a hundred years of the Boston Babydolls (one of our dates was April 1st — get it? We hadn’t even been performing as a troupe for a year at that point). We were supposed to perform it at Viva Las Vegas, but the organizers freaked out when we said there were 6 people in the act. Instead, we sent a trio (I wasn’t in it, alas). The following year (and I believe, ever after) the Viva burlesque competition was limited to solos.

When we were accepted to perform at Miss Exotic World that same year (the first year it was in Vegas), we decided the costumes needed an upgrade. We had all been wearing plain black panties, as I recall. Mine were from Victoria’s Secret, as the days of making my own were still in the future. Back then we very deliberately wore full-backed panties. My g-string era was yet to come.

I think it was Pinky Petite that took all the undies and added these cheeky martinis to the backs. As you can see, we were using sequins and glitter paint. So high end.  I thought they looked fabulous. Somewhere there’s a photo of the six of us leaning against a fence, butts out.

These days we would probably have martini glass-shaped g-strings, encrusted with rhinestones, and complimentary pasties, which I’m sure would read better and look more luxe. However, I’m kind of nostalgic for the days of sequins and hot glue and getting really creative with bargain basement finds. We were all fumbling our way through this burlesque thing, figuring stuff out as we went.

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Published in: on 13 April 2026 at 10:58 am  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip!

Find an accountability partner.

There are so many distractions in life and it seems like there are always things getting in the way of just getting stuff done. One way to focus is find someone who has similar goals and work together to achieve them. I don’t necessarily mean collaborate, but create an environment where you all can get stuff done, a little at a time.

To illustrate, earlier this week Christina Manuge held an on-line quiet sewing hour for her Patrons where all the participants logged into Zoom, spoke briefly about what projects they were working on, and then muted themselves and, if they liked, turned off their cameras. Just knowing that there were other people working away, kept me on task and I got a lot done in the allotted time.

It doesn’t have to be something you do at the same time as your partner. If you both set the goal of going to the gym three times a week, you can set your own schedule and then check in with each other and compare progress. Commiserate one another if you hit a snag and congratulate each other for hitting your goals.

Support each other and we all benefit.

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Published in: on 10 April 2026 at 4:06 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Have a tip!

For a strong and shapely rear, exercise all parts of your butt.

The biggest muscle is the gluteus maximus. That’s the one we all know. It’s worked when your leg moves out behind you, like back leg lifts, but also squats and deadlifts.

However, you also want to work your gluteus medius, which is the one at the corner of your seat. Exercises that bring your leg out to the side, like side leg lifts or the ignominious “dog peeing on a fire hydrant”, work this area.

Technically not part of your glutes, your hamstrings deserve some love. Having them toned and strong lifts up your bum. Moves with your knees bent, like trying to kick your own butt, target hamstrings.

A series I like is bridges, keeping your shoulders and upper back pressed into the floor and raising just your hips. Start with your feet close together, then bring them to hip width, raise one leg to tabletop, then the other, finish with your feet out wide. That should hit everything.

This tip brought to you by my aching hamstrings from yesterday’s barre class.

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Published in: on 3 April 2026 at 11:25 am  Leave a Comment  
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In Memoriam: Madeline Sinclaire

Dear Constant Reader,

I don’t remember when I first saw Madeline Sinclaire. She was such a fixture of the LA burlesque scene, with her Bettie bangs and brilliant smile, it could have been at any show I went to out there. I know she dazzled me completely at the Great Burlesque Expo in 2014 with her dreamy pink striptease with boa fans.

She was part of my first Stripper’s Holiday. I remember her workshopping “Jungle Bettie” and thinking that no one channelled Bettie Page like she did. I’ve seen a lot of people who styled themselves after the Queen of Pinups, but Madeline radiated the same joy that made Bettie so sought after.

I was heartbroken to hear she was in hospice (and, goddamn it, no one should have to fundraise for end of life care) and had barely processed that when the news came that she had passed away. She will be so deeply missed.

Madeline Sinclaire in The Main Event at The Great Burlesque Expo of 2014
David Salo Photography (1622 of 2331)Photo by David Salo Photography

GBE_2014_HANSWENDLAND_2193*Photo by Hans Wendland

It’s not just the loss of Legends that makes us poorer.

M2

Published in: on 31 March 2026 at 8:19 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip!

If you can make your costumes adjustable, do so.

I was thinking about how commercial garments often have narrow serged seams, which don’t allow for a lot of leeway in alterations. If you want to be able to alter your garments, using a more generous seam allowance helps. But you can also use lacing, elastic, ties, overlapping panels, and other methods to make the garments adjustable without having to take them apart and resew them.

For example, here is a garter belt I made, based on a vintage example, with lacing over the hips.

Pink garter belt

The laces can be tightened or loosened, as need be, to make a perfect fit. And, I think it’s very pretty.

This tip was also inspired by a video Christina of Manuge et Toi shared of how she very cleverly added some adjustability into the bodice of one of her costume commissions. I aspire to be even a little bit as creative as she is…

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Published in: on 27 March 2026 at 4:38 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! I think spring may actually be trying to break through. I saw the first crocus popping up in my back yard! Are you seeing signs of spring where you are?

Since the weather is improving, here’s your tip:

Hang your costumes outside to freshen them.

If you’ve taken my class on caring for your costumes, you know it can be tricky to wash burlesque costumes, so often we just don’t unless it’s a serious situation. After a winter of being stuck inside, garments can be a bit fusty. An hour or so outside in a gentle breeze and sunlight can help improve the way your costumes smell and sometimes even look (that may be a future tip).

Turn them inside out so the parts closest to your body are most exposed to the fresh air. This also protects the exterior from the sun. Extended sun exposure can fade colors. This is why we’re only hanging things out for a little while.

I know I said “hang”, but I know a lot of us don’t have clotheslines, so use a drying rack or a chair to support the costumes. Drape a towel over your support to protect your costume, just in case.

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Published in: on 20 March 2026 at 5:23 pm  Leave a Comment  
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I Made a Thing!

Dear Constant Reader,

I may have mentioned that Devastasia is a very talented artist. She did the illustrations for my first costume book, as well as the second (I know, I know… I swear I will get it out there someday…). Whenever she’s teaching at B.A.B.E., she makes eye-catching ads for Instagram, like this: April Intro

I, myself, am not an artist, let alone a talented one. I just don’t have the eye that some of my friends do and I get overwhelmed by choices. There’s a reason all my Fannie Farmer cooking videos use the same fonts and music. I may say it’s for consistency, but it’s really because I made a decision and don’t want to change it.

While Devastasia will happily make these graphics for any class I ask, I thought “why should she have to do all the work?” So, I found a photo and using Preview (the only graphics program I have), I did this:Spring StripNot bad for my first try, if I do say so.

And if you’d like to join me to learn a burlesque routine featuring a parasol, well, all the info is right there.

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Published in: on 17 March 2026 at 6:21 pm  Leave a Comment  
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